DAOS-16935 cart: add D_MEM_DEVICE and cio_mem_device init option

[soumagne]

This enables the detection and use of memory devices for RMA transfers

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[github-actions]

Ticket title is 'dfs_write bad address from 32K buffer allocated with malloc_shared'
Status is 'In Progress'
Labels: 'ALCF,alcf_cluster'
https://daosio.atlassian.net/browse/DAOS-16935

[daosbuild1]

Test stage Functional Hardware Large completed with status FAILURE. https://build.hpdd.intel.com//job/daos-stack/job/daos/view/change-requests/job/PR-15937/1/execution/node/1420/log

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Test stage Functional Hardware Medium Verbs Provider MD on SSD completed with status FAILURE. https://jenkins-3.daos.hpc.amslabs.hpecorp.net//job/daos-stack/job/daos/view/change-requests/job/PR-15937/3/execution/node/1347/log

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Test stage Functional Hardware Medium MD on SSD completed with status FAILURE. https://jenkins-3.daos.hpc.amslabs.hpecorp.net//job/daos-stack/job/daos/view/change-requests/job/PR-15937/5/execution/node/1315/log

[soumagne]

One failure in Test Hardware / Functional Hardware Medium MD on SSD / FTEST_osa.OSAOnlineDrain.5-./osa/online_drain.py:OSAOnlineDrain.test_osa_online_drain_mdtest;run-aggregation-checksum-container-hosts-ior-client_processes-iorflags-job_manager-launch-loop_test-mdtest-wr_size-32K-pool-rebuild-server_config-control_metadata-engines-0-storage-0-1-2-setup-test_obj_class-3ef4