Fix cross compile

[IsaacWarren]

Changes included in this PR

Fixes linux-aarch64 builds in conda-forge by allowing us to get pyarrow include and lib dirs without importing pyarrow (which cause the arrow_python shared object to be loaded, this is an issue because the architecture doesn't match the builder)

Testing strategy

Built on aws linux instance

User facing changes

Linux-aarch64 on conda-forge after release and conda-forge/bodo-feedstock#40 is merged

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[codecov]

Codecov Report

✅ All modified and coverable lines are covered by tests.
✅ Project coverage is 68.75%. Comparing base (c33fbb5) to head (a0da4aa).
⚠️ Report is 182 commits behind head on main.

Additional details and impacted files

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  Lines       66795    67749     +954     
  Branches     9507     9643     +136     
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+ Hits        44543    46584    +2041     
+ Misses      19572    18324    -1248     
- Partials     2680     2841     +161     

[IsaacWarren]

Release and Pip build passed as well

[ehsantn]

Thanks @IsaacWarren.