[XPU] update XHPC to 20231226 (#60377)

- opt rms_norm_grad bf16 n 4096
- xblas fc_fusion remove cublasLtDestroy calls

Author: dynamicheart

cmake/external/xpu.cmake

@@ -29,7 +29,7 @@ if(NOT DEFINED XPU_BASE_DATE)
   set(XPU_BASE_DATE "20231203")
 endif()
 if(NOT DEFINED XPU_XHPC_BASE_DATE)
-  set(XPU_XHPC_BASE_DATE "20231225")
+  set(XPU_XHPC_BASE_DATE "20231226")
 endif()
 set(XPU_XCCL_BASE_VERSION "1.1.8.1")
 if(NOT DEFINED XPU_XFT_BASE_VERSION)